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("Dear Thelma" is a relationship advice column that appears in The Star, a publication that is part of the Asia News Network.)
I am a 60-year-old married man with no kids. My marriage is OK. I am still working.
About a year ago, I entered into a "relationship" with a 20-year-old masseuse. She is aware that I am a married man.
I have a weekly massage session with her. Besides the massage, she allows me to hug, kiss and touch her. She stops short of having sex with me though.
I buy her things and provide financial assistance. Recently, she agreed to go for meals with me. I take her out shopping when she has a day off.
Should I continue or stop this relationship? Both of us are aware that there are no consequences since I can't marry her anyway.
I do enjoy spending time with her. We contact each other daily via WhatsApp. I send her lovey-dovey messages which she reciprocates.
I tried a few times to end this relationship, but failed.
I am not sure if she loves me or my money. If she does not love me, then why does she sacrifice herself to be intimate with me? I am confused and unsure of her motives.
Please give your view on this. Is it love or money, or both? - Hopeful