People telling girls to mind their attire is like Police telling us to mind valuables

Stomper Kevin feels that while there can be prevention, girls who dress provocatively do not deserve to be molested.

This is his entry for July's What Say You topic, 'Would having a public dress code lead to less sexual offences?'

The issue of whether girls should mind their attire does not contradict the need to mete out punishments to molesters.

Some people bring up the point that girls should mind their attire - this is just like Police telling us to not keep valuables in our car, telling the elderly not to wear excessive jewelry, or reminders to check for traffic before crossing the zebra crossing.

It is true that girls who dress provocatively DO NOT deserve to be molested.
Drivers who keep valuables in their car DO NOT deserved to be burgled.
Elderly who wear expensive jewelry DO NOT deserved to be robbed.
Pedestrians who do not pay extra attention DO NOT deserved to be knocked down at a zebra crossing.

However, the point is PREVENTION. You can prevent becoming a victim if you:
- do not keep valuables in your car,
- refrain from wearing expensive jewelry
- pay extra attention when crossing the road
- refrain from wearing provocatively

Dishing out crime prevention advices DOES NOT equate to victim-blaming.
We are not blaming drivers when we advice them to not keep valuables in their car.
We are not blaming elderly when we advise them to not wear expensive jewelry.
We are not blaming pedestrians when we advice them to pay extra attention at zebra crossings.
We certainly are not blaming women when we advice them to not wear provocatively.

It would have silly to argue...

"Why should I need to pay extra attention at zebra crossings? It's the DRIVERS that should look out for pedestrians, because pedestrians have absolute right of way at zebra crossings!"

"Why should I give up my freedom and right to wear jewelry? ANYONE should be taught to resist the temptation to steal/rob!"

At the end of the day, what's the point of being "right" but "victimized"? Victims live with the pain, regardless whether justice is served on the predator or not.

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